A bell is no bell 'til you ring it; A song is no song 'til you sing it; And love in your heart; Wasn't put there to stay; Love isn't love; 'Til you give it away;
__Oscar Hammerstein, Sound of Music, "You Are Sixteen (Reprise)"
A father may turn his back on his child, brothers and sisters may become inveterate enemies, husbands may desert their wives, wives their husbands. But a mother's love endures through all.
A great poet has seldom sung of lawfully wedded happiness, but of free and secret love; and in this respect, too the time is coming when there will no longer be one standard of morality for poetry and another for life. To anyone tender of conscience, the ties formed by a free connection are stronger than the legal ones.
__Ellen Key, Sprading in Liberty and the Great Libertarians